Hey everyone, sorry it's been a while. The last week has been completely insane, complicated, and hard on emotions. I don't really have time to catch up on all of your posts since I need to get to bed, since I have to get up early.
So last week things were going really well with the lady friend. We were hanging out quite a bit and taking it really slowly. Saturday night came and we both got pretty intoxicated. She seemed to really like me at the time of course and I could tell that she was pretty gone, even though I was a little drunk myself. Well we went to the bars with some of my friends and were there for about 2 hours. We danced, took shots, all that good stuff. When I needed a break I sent my friend out there to dance with her so everything was going well. Anyways my friends left and it was me and her, and it was the last song so she dragged me out on the dance floor one last time. Well she had a couple of friends around us and she was dancing in front of me. It looked as though one of her friends was trying to ask me a question and I couldn't hear her so I walked a couple feet away from her. By the time I looked over I noticed another guy, who was with one of her friends, was dancing in front of her pretty closely. So I decided to get back to her to make it known that I was there and she was with me. Well right as I got behind her she started to make out with him. I was pretty much devastated and couldn't believe it. I felt like a complete idiot just standing there not being able to do anything. The song ended in the next 2 seconds and she grabbed me by the hand and walked out of the bar with me and when we were outside acted like NOTHING had happened. She said she was going over to stay at her friend's place (the girl, not the guy she was kissing) for the night and I was so upset I said fine and I stormed off.
Next day I had to talk to her. I sat her down and she mentioned how drunk she got but said she didn't remember anything at the bar, but she remembered getting something to eat with her friends after the bar. Of course she asked me how many dumb things she did since she didn't remember most of the night and that's when I calmly told her what happened. She got really upset and apologetic. I told her how I felt and that I didn't mind if she wanted to wait to find out of she wanted a relationship or not, but I wouldn't stand for any more of what happened that previous night. I told her I had a lot of thinking to do now and I told her she probably should just forget about staying the night. I haven't seen her since, but I've talked to her on the phone.
Last night I told her I had done a lot of thinking and said I had one more question, which was "Do you want to tell me if anything else happened after I left, because I know that guy you were kissing in the bar was still there". Of course there was a long pause....then a sigh. She said, "I'm going to be honest with you, the bar wasn't the last time. We made-out when we went to get something to eat." Well my heart sank deep within my chest once again. She said she promised me that it wouldn't happen again, and she didn't know why it happened. She said she was just good friends with the kid, so it wasn't like it was some completely random guy. We talked it over for another hour and I finally decided to start fresh. I said since we technically weren't "dating" at the time I would let it pass, not easily...but I would let it pass. She reassured me that it wouldn't happen again and she feels very bad and she understands that if something that stupid happens again she would understand if I never talked to her again. She said she still would like to try to build a relationship and that she missed me.
Did I make the right decision? I feel like my friends will criticize me when they find out I took her back. I really like her and this is the first time in a while I've connected with a girl this well. This is why I decided to give it a second chance...even though I think about that night every day and it makes me shudder. I have never had this happen to me so I don't know if I made the most common decision, or better decision.
Sorry for the long post but there was a lot to the story, I have to get going though, I appreciate any feedback.
