I'm sorry for your loss. At least now all of her pain is gone.
My grandmother passed away a year and a half ago, losing a loved one can be hard.
I went through the typical things, it never really hit me until I saw her at the funeral that she was actually gone. Once it hit me, i got really depressed, I was upset that she had to go so soon, i felt like there was so much wisdom she had never shared with me, so many of her stories go untold, so much that I could have learned from her that I never got the chance to. I tried to fill that space by finding out every last bit of information I could about her.
For me, it seems like i will never ultimately get over it, but i've learned to live again, it's really changed my life in a good way, I think she would have been upset at me if I would have stayed depressed all of this time, she would have told me that I wasn't living my life to the fullest.
I had a dream about her the other night,
(In my dream) I was looking through all the countless documents about her, googling her over and over again, all of which i have done in real life.
Then she came in and lightly smacked me and said, with the biggest smile:
"Tanner, in this day and age, it makes you look like a creep obsessing over a dead old lady, even though I was quite a dish in my day.
But it's time to stop grieving and start living. I love you, always have. I'm not upset you stopped staying with me during the summers, I knew it was going to happen, for crying out loud no teenager wants to spend all of their summers with their granny! I exist now in your heart and in your memories, we were close, so you should have enough of them to last a lifetime. Stop with this, you need to go out and have fun, be young and stupid, because in the end that's all life is about. Heck, I was young and stupid for 69 YEARS! I'll always be with you, I know you loved me and I know i love you, so go be a teenager. I'll always be with you where ever you go, sometimes I may have my back turned when you are doing some things you wouldn't want family to see (as she laughs), yes, i was talking about sex. But i'll always be with you, i'll always be a part of you."
It was strange, but it helped me.
I'm sorry about your aunt, I hope it doesn't stop you from living and loving your life.