My mother, who's 90, says that's how it is these days, and I should get with the times (that is, "the new normal", and not to expect thanks).
Lastly, is my mother right about kids these days?
Not to be critical of your mother (or her age)...but many folks as they get older (many times) will gravitate towards the negative. How many times to you hear older folks say:
- "I remember when a loaf of bread cost 10 cents."
- "Ahh...the good old days."
- "When I was growing up...."
- etc. etc.
FYI...I've been hearing "older folks" for the past 40+ years saying exactly what your mother said. Older generations almost always feel like the younger generations don't do this or don't do that. And this sort of "generation gap" will continue well into the future.
This can happen at almost any age 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, etc. Just depends on the topic area.
As far as is your mother right about your neice. Two things:
1. I totally think that it depends on the person who was given the gift. There are lots & lots of ways to say "thank's". Many more than were available 20 year's ago:
- old school "snail-mail"
- phone call
2. You mentioned not being on very good terms with your neice. This probably goes both ways...maybe she's uncomfortable saying thank you to you. But like I mentioned...with the internet...there are lot's of ways for her to say thanks without speaking with you directly (or even via snail mail).
Plus...did you attend your neice's wedding? I know I know...there are a hundred reasons why you may not have been able to attend the wedding (many I'm sure are totally legitimate).
But if your neice is/was a "bridezilla"
...the logical reasons you may have may not matter.
As far as the gift card...I'm not sure. My gut feeling is you can't track it (but I could be wrong). If your main concern is whether she actually received the card or not (more important than her saying thanks for it). If you know her email address...send her an email & ask her).
Or ask someone else that you can communicate with more easily to ask her.
p.s. I'm not a "young pup" either!