Unfortunately iChat doesn't support conferencing. May be you can try the recently released Skype video. It is still in Beta phase but that shouldn't be a problem.
Yes it does.
However, there is no Mac client that supports Video with MSN Messenger.
Try Skype or Yahoo! Messenger or if your Windows friend has the release of AIM before Triton it will work.
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