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papagonz
12-22-2014, 08:34 PM
Hi everyone, I am new to the forum and in need of some advice. My parents, to my surprise, found a way to look at my search results(not through my computer). I need to find a way to get around this, I suspect it's through the router, or the modem, or even the company(yes, they're that nosy). I created a guest network an have been using it but it didn't change the ip address..

We have a airport extreme with a uBee modem. Any suggestions?? Thanks!

Raz0rEdge
12-22-2014, 09:25 PM
Welcome to Mac-Forums..

I've moved your post to the Lounge, since your question could be answered bother on a technical and non-technical means..

The technical means depend on what level of access you have to your environment. It sounds like you're freely changing settings on your router and so on, so that might be on avenue..

On the non-technical front, depending on your age, there might be other things you can do to alleviate your parents concerns. In this day and age, most of us spend a lot of time online and parents want to make sure that you aren't getting into trouble. It's amazing how a chat about Internet safety would do. It'll show that you are mature enough to understand and use the technology and also you can be open about what you DO on the Internet so they wouldn't have to sneak around to find out..

papagonz
12-22-2014, 09:43 PM
Thank you for your response. Yes I have free access to the router, I am just not sure which route to take..

As for talking with my parents about internet safety, I am 21 years old, there 'snooping' is strictly to get their nose in my buisness.

Oh did i mention they also have access to what I am searching on my verizon iphone?? Figure they would need a warrant right?

Nope, corrupt employee...welcome to my world :Not-Amused:

Slydude
12-22-2014, 10:12 PM
With regard to your Verizon issue one question occurs to me: Is the account being "snooped" one that you are paying for? If so, I would suggest taking that part of the equation up with the company. Start with that employee's manager/supervisor if you are certain you know the name of the employee.

I am not sure what the applicable rules would be if your parents are paying the bill?

harryb2448
12-22-2014, 10:37 PM
Even better take it up with your parents and find out what level of trust you earnt/lost. You may lose all access if you interfere with the router if your parents are paying for the service.

cwa107
12-23-2014, 12:47 AM
My advice: You're old enough to drink, so you're old enough to put your own roof over your head. Move out and get your own ISP. That will render this concern entirely moot.

lclev
12-23-2014, 12:56 AM
My advice: You're old enough to drink, so you're old enough to put your own roof over your head. Move out and get your own ISP. That will render this concern entirely moot.

Wow! You read my mind. The OP might be 21 but I bet the parents are paying the internet and cellphone bill if they have access to it.

Best way to stop the snooping is to pay for your own service in your name only.

My youngest moved out when he was 29. He was the only one we had to deal with concerning the internet or cellphone. He had no problem with me checking his browsing history or anything on his phone. We were paying for his service, I made that clear and he agreed. Now he has his own home and pays his own bills although he still wouldn't care if Mom would want to check out his browsing history which means he has nothing he is worried I won't approve of.

Lisa

McBie
12-23-2014, 04:41 AM
Thank you for your response. Yes I have free access to the router, I am just not sure which route to take..

As for talking with my parents about internet safety, I am 21 years old, there 'snooping' is strictly to get their nose in my buisness.

Oh did i mention they also have access to what I am searching on my verizon iphone?? Figure they would need a warrant right?

Nope, corrupt employee...welcome to my world :Not-Amused:

The solution to your problem is not technical, it is pure people/social relationship.

The answer to the ' problem ' is ....... communicate, communicate and communicate even more. ( With your parents of course :-) )

Cheers ... McBie

harryb2448
12-23-2014, 05:09 PM
As a relative of mine had on his refrigerator to 'help' his sons:-

'Move out now and set up on your own whilst you still know everything!'

Exodist
12-25-2014, 12:20 AM
My advice: You're old enough to drink, so you're old enough to put your own roof over your head. Move out and get your own ISP. That will render this concern entirely moot.


Wow! You read my mind. The OP might be 21 but I bet the parents are paying the internet and cellphone bill if they have access to it.


Read my mind as well..


@OP, Your 21 and its time you did move out. If they are paying for any of your services, then they have more rights over the accounts then you do. Although my parents never snooped into my internet or phone usage(not cell phone, plus I paid for everything of mine), there comes a time in everyones life when they must move on. I joined the military when I was 21. Moved away, seen many places, bought an actual NEW new car and got my first cell phone. This was great as it gave me the small steps to moving out, without being kicked out on my rear end. I suggest the same for the OP..

papagonz
12-30-2014, 06:23 PM
I wish moving out was an option; however, with nursing school around the corner I just don't see it as a viable choice..

But yes, I will as soon as I can!

Thanks for the reply's!

harryb2448
12-30-2014, 07:29 PM
In life papagonz we have to conform at times to others' expectations. Do what your parents want and not rock the boat. They will be your parents for life so keep relations harmonious.

Nurse training will not take that long, but at your age what? ~ four years seems a lifetime.