I suggest you focus 100% on finals right now, and as soon as they're over, you need to breakup with her. Stay firm and don't let her treat you with any disrespect. Simply be calm and explain to her why it's not working out, try hard not to get worked up if she throws a fit. Also, don't get sucked into a long, drawn out breakup. Keep your part short and to the point, let her vent a little, and then get out and move on with your life. You also need to completely cut off any contact with this girl otherwise she will continue to pester you and a crazy stalker ex-gf is the last thing you need when you're trying to get with a new girl.
You're not wrong about any of that.
I'm pretty sure you've already decided - and you know what you want to do - you're just coming here for some assistance with rationalizing the decision - and maybe so you can say it was our idea?
With that in mind - you know what you want to do - now just go do it. You're still at the age where you can do what you
want to do - before you know it you'll be at a point in your life where you'll be stuck doing what you
have to do. Take advantage of where you're at now.
Yeah, you're 100% spot-on also.
With regard to:
As for the new girl, I would suggest taking it a little slowly. Go on a few dates, get to know her. You could be looking at her with rose-colored glasses in that she could seem to be amazing but only in contrast to your current girlfriend. For all you know, she could be not as amazing as you thought once you actually get to know her. Bad relationships and bad breakups can have all sorts of adverse effects on the psyche, so you need to give your mind some time to heal and recalibrate.
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I bet you that when you first met your current gf you were saying the same thing. How do you know this new girl has no skeletons in the closet?
Right here & now I'll admit that I've had a history of rushing into relationships with girls I barely know.
My first long-term gf? I asked her out after a couple of months of only seeing her in a nightclub for ~4 hours per week. Basically the equivalent of four eight-hour days spent together.
The next one? Asked her out at the beginning of a friend's birthday, after a drunken fumble in a pub two weeks prior.
The most recent before this? One night together at a club & a two-hour Instant Messenger chat.
Last, but by no means least; the current? Five hours spent together at a party, followed by me driving 80 miles to see her two days later.
I'll not deny in any way that I have been
way too over-enthusiastic in the past, to say the least - and, I'll say it myself, desperately tried to see the best in each situation (I honestly don't know why, I'm very confident in most regards).
However, in the case of the girl in my class, we've been getting to know each-other since the beginning of October & have had some pretty personal conversations about things good and bad (and "
personal personal"
), and I have yet to see or hear anything that puts me off...
I don't think seven months can be considered rushing into anything!
You don't have to rationalise anything if you dont enjoy your current relationship - that is the fundamental aspect of being in one in the first place.
Well, exactly. It's only the emotional blackmail I've gotten from my gf that makes me feel like I owe her happiness (which I would if she gave it to me, but she does not).