I was at the Apple Store today, at the Genius bar due to a problem with my battery. Related to your question. But here's the background first: Bought this MacBook Pro 34 months ago. Relevant because the Apple Care runs out in June. While living in Europe last year, the battery stopped charging, and thus, at some point, I wasn't able to turn the MBP back on, since it isn't able to simply run on mains alone. The Apple authorized service center in Hungary replaced the logic board and supposedly put a new battery in.. Though from what the Genius told me today, it wasn't a new battery, but rather a "service parts battery".
I told the genius the same think that you've told us.. that I keep my MBP in clamshell mode and work with an external monitor, so 98% of the time it's plugged in. I also let him know that I try and calibrate my battery at least once a month. Apparently, this isn't enough. He suggested (and this is what he does) that whenever the MBP isn't in use, but is still on (whether or not it's sleeping) just flick the magsafe adapter out and let the battery drain. As said above, the electrons need to keep moving in order to maintain better health.
So now I've pretty much messed up my battery, and will have to get a new one.
Doug