changing ical icon

i have having an issue when i cant change my ical icon. it is not even in my candy bar app. and if it is i dont see it. i was wondering how do you go about changing it. i have tried the copy paste method and that is not working for me. please help

her is a pic of my dock as of now.


ical is killing me.

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