Trauma with Parallels 6 iPhone iPad integration

Getting ERROR >

I can see on my iPad, "My Macs" - MacBook (2) - when I hit the refresh button on the main screen it says "connecting" then "No Virtual Machine Found" even though my Parallels Desktop is opened and functioning on my Mac.

On my iPhone the error I get is a Connection Error and it says " Unable to connect to the proxy server "1.

I have been working with the people at Parallels who keep telling me the same thing, read the manual and do what it says. I've done that about 30 times, reinstalled the XP O/S on the virtual machine and still get the same errors. ;(