Member Since: Jul 17, 2009
Mac Specs: 27" i7 iMac, 24" iMac, 13" Macbook Air, iPhone 5 & 5S, iPod Nano 7th Gen, iPad 2 16GB WiFi, iPad 3
05-18-2012, 09:41 AM
The newest versions of iTunes and iOS 5.x can wirelessly sync with each other. As long as the phones are in the vicinity of the computer, they will all appear. I get my iPhone and iPad appearing in my iTunes all the time.
You have a couple of options.
1. Disable auto-syncing for every device with How to Disable iPhone and iPod Auto-Syncing
2. Disable auto-syncing with a particular device by clicking on it and under the summary tab uncheck "Sync with iPhone over Wi-Fi". Do this with her iPhone on your laptop and with your iPhone on her laptop..
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